There are few things more powerful than the faithful prayers of a righteous mother . -Boyd K. Packer.
In the past month I have become stronger in finding comfort in my own worries. The worry of my children. Too often I find myself trying to hold on to their youth. We want so badly for time to freeze, so we don’t have to miss a beat in our children’s lives. I find myself holding on to every bit of baby that they have left in them. From time to time, I will joke with them and ask “Can I keep you forever?”, or “Do you think you can hold off from growing for just one more day?” They think it’s funny, but if only they knew I was being serious.
As much as I wish I could keep my babies, I enjoy experiencing each new milestone with them. Having two daughters that are constantly showing their love for each other, and doing it with such compassion. Vivian is doing a wonderful job as a role model. It’s important to me that they understand the grace of kindness. At the end of the day, when we realize that we have two innocent little children, amazed by the most simple things, shows us how to look at the world differently.
It came to me one day, that all of these worries and thoughts were not only bad for me, but also for my children. Instead of asking them to stop growing, I should be telling them that I want them to grow and prosper. We spend some much time teaching our children and preparing them for life. This is where God had to come in. We cannot control what happens, and as much as we’d like to think we do, we do not. So, instead of trying to hold on to what we have now, we need to prepare them for whats to come. Let God take control.
A struggle I faced personally, was letting my littlest one have her own space, her own room. The hardest part for me, was realizing how important it was for her to experience independence. From our room, to a big girl room. We are constantly showering our little babies with love, always there and rarely do we leave them. She needed a place all her own. Our house set up isn’t exactly convenient for a family with small children, and the thought of her bed across from ours was so relieving, because I could protect her. What exactly am I protecting her from? The chance of a burglary? An accident? Fear? Where there is worry, there is God. So, I prayed, and prayed, and prayed some more. For strength. We co-slept with both of our girls and it was the best thing we ever did. Besides, they’re only little for a little while! When our oldest was ready, she made the move. However, our youngest is so different from our first born. An independent, fearless leader. So why was I holding on to her so tight? Vivian is still dependent on us when it comes to insecurties, and more often than not, ends up in our bed, but that’s okay! She needs us, while Scarlett is confident. When she does cry at night, we get her, reassuring her that we are still here for her. However, letting her make that decision, as opposed to giving it to her. Now, if you ask why the rush, there wasn’t a rush. We are not holding her back from needing us. We are still here. When she does cry in the night, we are there to either put her back to sleep, or let her cuddle with us. However, I have found such relief in my decision. I stopped trying to control everything. I gave my worries to God, and he took them. What may seem like a silly problem to you, was causing anxiety to me. The love for your child can never be too great. As a mother, you will do anything to keep your child safe, but should go about it in a positive way. Lock your doors, bar the windows, have your monitor, but the biggest security system is already there, God. So, pray for your children. there is nothing stronger than the power of prayer. If you ask, you shall receive.
Maybe you’ve dealt with a similar situation, whether you’re the over protective parent, or worry wart. We have all been there in one way or another. Did you find strength in God? Did you decide to listen to your children, by watching their actions and responding to their individual needs? It’s never to late to give it all to God. Pray.
“Casting the whole of your care,all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully.” -(Peter 5:7)
“Some of us think holding on is what makes us strong, but sometimes is letting go.” -(Herman Hesse)
“Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness.” -(Isaiah 41:10)